MY CHIC INTUITION
My Chic Intuition
This is not a podcast. It’s a frequency.
A cinematic decoding of the feminine experience through poetic storytelling, symbolic monologues, and soul-level transmissions.
Hosted by Carmen Ramos, My Chic Intuition is episodes archive disguised as content, but built as a cipher. Each title, a clue. Each episode, a mirror.
We talk presence, performance, power, and the process of unbecoming what the world projected onto us.
It’s for the women who move differently. The ones who’ve been labeled too much, too quiet, too soft, too sharp and chose to be all of it, anyway.
Listen closely.
You’re not just tuning in.
You’re decoding yourself.
MY CHIC INTUITION
He Became a PALENTINE
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A Valentine’s dinner became a live case study the moment the conversation turned into a monologue and the questions never came. We walked in soft and hopeful, walked out with notes on power, presence, and why clarity will always beat performed depth. From the first five minutes—where business, routines, and leadership philosophies took the spotlight—to the therapist voice cameo and the “Do you see a therapist?” probe, we unpack how subtle postures create big imbalances and how to reset the dynamic without losing your center.
We explore a core mindset shift: life feels “confusing and complicated” when we dodge honesty and act out of alignment, but it becomes clear when we know who we are and what we’re working toward. Not easy, but clear. That lens reframes dating decisions into simple gates: does this bring me peace, is this aligned, is this for me. Along the way, we examine the signals that matter—curiosity over competition, warmth over labels, coherence over performance—and how they show up in small moments, like a gentrified spin on a beloved dish or a gift that prioritizes optics over intimacy.
The contradictions hit hardest when activism talk met an appetizer that erased its roots. We connect those dots to a bigger truth: values are verified by choices, not speeches. And yes, we tell the story of luxury and re-gifting meeting in one Montclair dust bag and what that reveals about impressiveness versus intimacy. The night wasn’t a failure; it was data. We close with a clear set of takeaways: if someone debates your field, they’re reaching for power; if they analyze instead of ask, they’re not present; if they perform depth, insecurity is steering. This year, we’re not dating potential or performances—we’re dating peace.
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Hi everyone, welcome back to MyCheek Intuition. On this episode, we're going to talk about how I went on a Valentine's Day date and ended up conducting a full psychological observation. Like I didn't go as a lover. I went as a researcher. And honestly, thank you to that man for the content. Let's start with the fact that I looked good, hair done, outfit correct, skin glowing, very soft, very feminine. Very, he better act right. And in my head, I'm like, okay, Carmen, if the vibe is off, just enjoy the food, be pretty, and go home. Content mindset. So I meet him, and within the first five minutes, I know everything about this man. His business, his routine, his philosophy on success, his leadership style, everything. Except why he asked me on a date, because he had not asked me a single question. Not one. And that's when I realized I'm not on a date, I'm at a seminar. So he finally asked what I'm studying, and I say psychology. Very normal. And you know when someone turns your answer into a competition, his posture changed. He goes, Yeah, I read a lot about human behavior. And I just looked at him and said, You like debating, don't you? Very calm, very sweet. And the energy shifted. Because now the dynamic got named. And instead of laughing like a normal flirty human, he goes, We can talk about it if you want. In a therapist voice. Sir, why are you talking to me like there's a couch behind me? This is a date, not a session. Then he asked me, Do you see a therapist? Not in a caring way. In an analytical way. So I said, Yes, and studying psychology and has given me way more tools. I'm getting my PhD. There are levels. Because don't try to position yourself as the authority in my field. And then at one point he goes, Life is confusing and complicated. And I just pause because the way people describe life tells you everything about how they experience themselves. So I said, You make life what you want it to be, and I don't see it like that. To me, it's very black and white. And he goes, Okay, explain that. And I'm sitting there thinking, this isn't a debate topic. This is a lifestyle. Because for me, life gets confusing when you're not honest with yourself. Life gets complicated when you're out of alignment. But when you know who you are, what you want, what you're working toward, things become very clear. Not easy, but clear. It's either, does this bring me peace or not? Is this aligned or not? Is this for me or not? There's no spiral. There's intuition. And that was a moment I realized we don't experience life the same way because some people live in a mental chaos and call it depth. And I live in a clarity and call it peace. That's when I emotionally left the date. From that point on, I was just there for the food. That was gentrified by a French chef. Like this was not an empana, this was an enter interpretation. This plate had a thesis statement. Where is the seasoning? Where is somebody's Thea? Where is a portion looking at me like that? And he's looking at me for approval. How do you like the food? And I said, Amatina, we have a high expectations for Hispanic food. Which was my elegant way of saying Este no tiene sazón. And while we're eating this, he starts talking about how he wants to end systemic racism in the hair industry. And I'm sitting there thinking, the contradiction is so loud. You cannot give me a whole liberation speech in a gentrified version of my culture. Your activism at this appetizer are not aligning. At this point, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, I already call the Uber. So the night is ending, and he reaches under the table and pulls out a gift. And for a second I'm like, okay, that's thoughtful. It was hair products. In a Montclair dust bag. And I just said, so thoughtful. Because what else do you say in that moment? I have never experienced luxury and re-gifting in the same emotional space. So I get in the Uber. Main character moment, looking out the window like I'm in a music video, and I realize something. This wasn't a bad date. This was data. And here are the findings. If he turns your career into a debate, he's trying to create power dynamic. If he analyzes you instead of getting to know you, he's not present. If he performs depth instead of being curious, that's insecurity. And the biggest one of me You cannot impress me with aesthetics if there's no warmth. Because I don't care about the restaurant. I don't care about the label. I care if you're kind. If you're curious, if you actually see me, because yes, I'm soft, but I'm also focused, ambitious, and very self-aware. La Nena with a PhD loading. There are levels. So this year we're not dating potential, we're not dating performances, we're dating peace. And if not, at least we got an episode. So thank you for always listening and tuning in, and I always welcome feedback. And I love when you guys just come come back, you know? So also thank you for listening to my chic intuition.