MY CHIC INTUITION
My Chic Intuition
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A cinematic decoding of the feminine experience through poetic storytelling, symbolic monologues, and soul-level transmissions.
Hosted by Carmen Ramos, My Chic Intuition is episodes archive disguised as content, but built as a cipher. Each title, a clue. Each episode, a mirror.
We talk presence, performance, power, and the process of unbecoming what the world projected onto us.
It’s for the women who move differently. The ones who’ve been labeled too much, too quiet, too soft, too sharp and chose to be all of it, anyway.
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MY CHIC INTUITION
When Texting Feels Perfect Until It Doesn’t
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Text Chemistry And Imagined Potential
SPEAKER_01Have you ever been talking to somebody and everything feels good at first? Like surprisingly good. You know when you meet somebody and you're not trying to get ahead of yourself, but you're definitely a little excited. You see his picture and you're like, okay, he's cute. You start texting and the conversation is flowing. He's asking questions, you're asking questions, you find out you have things in common, and somewhere in the back of your mind, even though you're trying not to do it, you start thinking, wait, could I actually like this person? That happened to me recently. And I'm not gonna give you every detail because some things are staying in the vault. But I was talking to this guy, and initially I was excited. And if you know me, you know that doesn't happen all the time because dating at this age is listen, it's an experience, and I've had enough experiences. So when I actually start getting excited about somebody, I notice it. We were texting a lot, we seemed to have similar interests. He liked going out, he liked doing things. There was a lifestyle compatibility. And I remember thinking, okay, maybe this could actually be something. Not marriage. I wasn't picking out a wedding dress. Everybody relax. We hadn't even gone out yet, but I was interested. There was potential, and potential is dangerous because potential will have you creating an entire relationship with somebody who hasn't even taken you out to dinner yet. And I think women do this sometimes. We don't necessarily fall for the man, we start falling for the possibility of the man. There's a difference because at this point I didn't really know him. I knew his pictures, I knew our text conversations, I knew what he had told me, I knew the little pieces of himself that he had presented to me. And I like those pieces. Then we got on the phone and something changed. Not in a huge dramatic way. There wasn't some horrible confession. He didn't tell me he had 17 children. He didn't tell me he was married. Nothing happened where you could point to it and say, There, red flag, front. It was subtle. The energy was just different. And I could actually feel myself going through stages during this conversation. I started the conversation like really in love, like happy, like oh my god. And then I was like, wait, what? Then I was confused, and then I was a little disappointed. And eventually I was like, hmm, no. And I remember getting off the phone and thinking, what just happened? Because a few hours earlier I was excited about this man. Now I didn't know if I even wanted to go on a date with him. And that is where the real story starts.
Phone Call That Changes Everything
SPEAKER_01Because instead of simply trusting the fact that something had changed for me, I started interrogating myself, am I being too picky? Am I judging him too quickly? Am I looking for something wrong? Am I self-sabotaging? And then I thought, wait a minute, why is it that always the first place we go? Why when a woman likes somebody and then learns something that changes how she feels, do we immediately assume there must be something wrong with her? Maybe I'm not sabotaging anything, maybe I just got more information. Dating is so strange now because you can know so much about somebody before you actually know them. You can see their picture, you can see where they travel, you can see what restaurants they go to, you can see their job, their friends, their dog, their mother, sometimes their ex-girlfriend if you scroll long enough. And then there's texting. And texting can create this whole personality. Somebody can be charming over text, funny, confident, flirty. You start developing a rhythm, you see their name pop up on your phone, and you're smiling, and without realizing it, you're filling in the blanks. You don't know what his voice sounds like when he's irritated, you don't know how he treats a waiter, you don't know whether he's generous, you don't know whether he's emotionally available, you don't know how he handles disagreements, you don't even know if you have chemistry, but your brain hates empty spaces, so it starts filling them in. And usually we fill them in with what we hope is there. And I had already started doing that. I had an idea of him, and then I heard more of the real person, and the real person didn't completely match the person I had started constructing in my head. That's nobody's fault. He didn't trick me, I wasn't stupid. That's literally what dating is. You're gathering information, and sometimes the information makes you more attracted, sometimes it makes you less attracted. But something happened during that conversation that really stuck with
When “I Studied You” Hits Weird
SPEAKER_01me. At one point, he told me that before I had even given him my social media, he already done a deep dive on me. And he used language like he studied me, and immediately something in me went, hmm. Because listen, we all Google people, it's 2026. If you're going on a date with somebody and you don't do at least a little bit of tiny investigations, God bless you, you are braver than me. But there's something about somebody saying, I studied you, sir. What are we studying? Is there going to be an exam? Did you make a flashcard? What exactly is happening? Maybe another woman would hear that and think, Oh my god, it's so cute. He wanted to know everything about me. That's fine, but I heard it differently. It made me uncomfortable, and that's important because dating advice has become so obsessed with universal rules. If he does this, he's interested. If he does that, he's avoidant. If he texts after this many hours, it means this. If he plans a date this way, it means that. You because somebody can technically do everything right, and you can still feel something is off. And somebody can do something unconventional, and you can feel completely safe with them. Context matters. Your body notices context, your intuition notices context. And then I started thinking about all the times I've talked myself back into liking somebody. That's such a strange sentence when you really think about it. Talking yourself into attraction because I've done it. Maybe you have to. You meet somebody and there is one thing you don't love, and immediately you're negotiating. Well, nobody's perfect. True. Maybe being superficial is possible. Maybe I need to give him a chance. Okay. Maybe attraction grows. Sometimes it does. But how many maybes do we need before we're overriding ourselves?
Standards Versus Being Too Picky
SPEAKER_01And this is where I think dating gets complicated for women who have standards because people love telling women they're too picky, especially single women. If you're single for a certain amount of time, everybody suddenly becomes your dating consultant. Maybe your standards are too high. Maybe you're looking for perfection. Maybe you need to give different men a chance. Maybe you should overlook this. Maybe you should compromise on that. And yes, there are absolutely people who have impossible standards. There are people who reject potentially wonderful partners over ridiculous things. But I also think women here, you're too picky so often that sometimes we start treating basic incompatibility like a character flaw. There are things I know about myself now. I know how I want to date. I know what makes me feel attracted to somebody. I know what makes me feel cared for. I know what kind of lifestyle I enjoy. I know the kind of relationship I eventually want. And I'm not 22 anymore. At 22, you can date somebody for six months just to figure out what the hell is happening. At 36, I don't need six months to determine whether we fundamentally want different things. That isn't bitterness, that's experience. And I realize something else. Sometimes, when you've had disappointing dating experiences, you become so concerned about self-sabotage that you start overcorrecting. Every instinct becomes suspicious. You don't trust yourself anymore. You think maybe I'm pushing him away because I'm afraid. Maybe, but maybe you're pulling away because you don't like him anymore. Can we bring that possibility back into the conversation? Because not every loss of attraction is trauma, not every hesitation is an attachment style, not every ick needs six therapy sessions. Sometimes a man says something you're like, oh. And that's it. You're learning him. And that's the entire purpose of dating. And I think there's another reason this gets difficult.
You Don’t Need A Court Case
SPEAKER_01We don't want to hurt people's feelings. Especially when the person hasn't technically done anything terrible. It's much easier to reject somebody when they're obviously awful. If a man is rude to you, easy. If he lies, easy. If he's disrespectful, goodbye. But what happens when he's perfectly nice and you simply don't want him? That's harder because there's no villain. And I think sometimes we keep entertaining situations because we feel like we need a good enough reason to leave. But dating isn't a trial. You don't need evidence beyond a reasonable doubt. You're choosing who gets access to your life, you're choosing who gets your time, your affection, your body, potentially your future. That's an incredibly personal decision. And sometimes this doesn't feel right for me, is enough. It doesn't mean he's bad. It doesn't mean you're better than him. It means the match isn't there. Now, does this mean I think we should run every time somebody does one tiny thing we don't like? Absolutely not. If that were the rule, every person on earth would die single, including me. I have quirks, you have quirks, everybody has quirks. There is a difference between noticing somebody is human and noticing something that changes your attraction or sense of compatibility. And figuring out that difference takes honesty. You have to ask yourself, is this actually bothering me? Or am I afraid because I actually like this person? Those are very different feelings. Fear of intimacy can feel like wanting to run, but intuition can also feel like wanting to run. And unfortunately, neither one comes with subtitles. Wouldn't that be amazing? You're sitting across from somebody at dinner and suddenly a little captain appears. This is an attachment issue. Proceed. Or no girl, this one is actually weird. Thank you. Dating would be easier, but we don't get
Intuition Whisper And The Middle Ground
SPEAKER_01that. We have to learn ourselves. And that's actually why I call this podcast My Chic Intuition, because intuition isn't about magically knowing everything, it's about knowing yourself well enough to notice when something changes inside of you. Sometimes intuition screams, but most of the time it whispers. It's that little pause, that hesitation before you answer. That moment when somebody says something and your smile disappears for half a second. That feeling when you put your phone down and instead of feeling excited, you feel drained. And I think I've spent enough time in my life trying to explain those feelings away. Now, I want to get curious about them. Not automatically obey every feeling, but not automatically dismiss it either. There's a middle ground. You notice it, you sit with it, you gather more information, and then you make a decision. So I don't know exactly what will happen with every person I meet that's dating. Maybe somebody surprises you, maybe your first impression was wrong, maybe somebody you weren't sure about becomes incredible. And maybe somebody you were incredibly excited about becomes a very quick no. But I don't think the goal of dating is to make every possibility work. I think the goal is to discover which possibility actually fits. And that means sometimes you're going to be disappointed. Sometimes you're going to disappoint somebody else. Sometimes you're going to get excited on Tuesday and be completely uninterested by Thursday. That's okay. You didn't fail. You learned something new. And maybe that's what I've been learning lately. I don't have to label myself difficult because I know what I want. I don't have to call myself picky because attraction changed. I don't have to accuse myself of self-sabotage every time my intuition says hmm. And I definitely don't need to convince myself to want somebody simply because I wanted him yesterday. Because yesterday I knew less. Today I know more. And new information is allowed to change the way you feel.
New Information Can Change Feelings
SPEAKER_01So the next time you're dating and that little feeling comes up, don't panic. Don't immediately end it. But don't immediately explain it away either. Stay curious. Ask yourself what changed. Because sometimes that little step isn't used to learning something good. Sometimes you're just finally seeing what's actually in front of you. And maybe the person isn't wrong. Maybe you're not wrong. Maybe it's simply not your person. And there's something strange about realizing that you don't have to make someone wrong in order to know that they're wrong for you. A little more than you did yesterday.
SPEAKER_00I know what's making like this.